Miinkay is a coach, bodyworker, and professional listener. In her newsletter she share life's lessons and encourages you to keep moving past whatever obstacle you're facing.
There's Action, Inaction and...
I'm a doer. I used to be a serial doer - and I would get very upset if I wasn't doing something. I think it came from my drive to "make it" in the world. Every moment of every day was an opportunity to be progressing and getting something done. Fast forward a few years of this attitude and I obviously burned myself out. It wasn't until I decided to take a month long road trip across California that I finally learned how to do nothing. I was staying with an old college friend of mine and it was a Saturday. I asked her, "What do you usually do on the weekend?" And she said, "Nothing." I gave her my best, confused face and asked, "How do you do that?"
That was the first time anyone had ever suggested to me, that we should do nothing. And that was also the first time it really sounded good. To have no plan, to just sit around and let my feelings guide me through the day. I don't think I had ever done that before. But man was it NICE.
That was almost 5 years ago. And today I'm truly understanding the importance of doing nothing as it relates to my life and business. I see that there's Action, Inaction, and Neutrality.
Action is doing, creating, making, thinking.
Inaction is choosing not to do.
Neutrality is just being. You're not acting or choosing not to act. You're choosing to wait, to be, and to see what happens. It's different from inaction because you haven't chosen to not act. You're still leaving inaction on the table as an option.
If Action = YES and Inaction = NO, then Neutrality is waiting to decide. Being patient while information is gathered, and letting the process play out. Its sort of like doing nothing - but has a conscious intention to wait and see.
You see, integrating this way of being in my life has been super helpful. Because it's not inaction. Inaction makes me feel like I'm not doing enough. But neutrality helps me to feel like I'm in control.
If inaction gives you anxiety, then give yourself the space to be neutral. Choosing neutrality puts you in control and gives you time to process and then progress.
Last week I needed to decide if I was going to keep doing my Meditate with Miinkay podcast. I've been busy and haven't had time to focus on it, but I really love meditation and still want to advocate for it. I decided to just wait and see if new information would pop up during the week to help me decide. A few days ago I got an alert from my podcast host that the show got up to 750 downloads! That helped me decide to keep the show going. I didn't need to do anything. I just let the show grow on its own and it keeps showing me that people are paying attention.
So if you're stuck on something, then choose to wait and see. If you have time, why not? You're in control of how much waiting you want to do. You don't have to always be doing. Just being you is good enough.
When Your Side Hustle Becomes Your Main Hustle with Maria of Bloom and Grow Radio
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Miinkay is a coach, bodyworker, and professional listener. In her newsletter she share life's lessons and encourages you to keep moving past whatever obstacle you're facing.
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